Hi my name is Andy or Drew (prefererd)

[andypandy08a]

Hi As this topic is about men and Fibromyalgia let me
introduce my self I am Drew 56 years of age and confirmed
with Fibromyalgia some time ago

unfortunatly I also have a heart condition too , As they say
Fibro is pretty well a womans illness however there are guys like us
that have FMS too and suppose that makes diagnosis pretty
hard and as it is called a hidden illness once again you look
pretty fine on the outside but feeling pretty poor on the inside

I look forward to meeting you all soon on this forum board
Drew

[fibroman]

Hi Drew

Thanks for joining the forum, it is in its infancy at the moment but I am hoping with time it will grow into a useful resource.

I think when men have fibromyalgia it can cause them different problems especially if they are the bread winner. I am the same age as you and I was lucky enough to be able to take redunancy and start working from home, since then things have improved for me immensely. When I went out to work it was a real struggle just getting up in the morning but being the main breadwinner I had to keep going to earn the money.

I know what you mean about looking well on the outside and feeling awful, I used to have time off at work and it caused problems with some colleagues who just couldn't believe I was ill.

I looking forward to chatting with you in the future, meanwhile if you know anyone with Fibro please direct them to this site.

Cheers
Graham

[andypandy08a]

Course I will point them here no probem

well I am still employed (only just) my boss tried to pull a fast on on me but had a thing called a union to get past first

yep this ilness is just so bad , some days all I want is my bed
like the look of the forum nice layout

talk soon Drew acm2009@live.co.uk

[fibroman]

well I am still employed (only just) my boss tried to pull a fast on on me but had a thing called a union to get past first

When I was working there was many a time I was glad I had joined a union too.

[n3wt]

Hi guys

I have read allot on FMS and it is known as a women's condition but there are men outhere who suffor with it. I find it difficult to keep repeating myself when so called friends listen to you about your condition and how you suffor but I can see in thier face they dont even care. So I find it hard to sum up what to say to these guys. Also I have lost pretty much all my friends as I have been informed that some friends and even family have said that I want to be on the dole as they see it as free money. Honustly I have no idea what planet these people are from, income support isnt enough for you to live basically and I get infuriated at people who think I am faking. Why would I put my family through all this? It is unfair and ingnorant.

Has anyone else found that ex-friends or family have done tis to you?

Cheers sorry for ranting

[pollywolly]

Hi guys

I have read allot on FMS and it is known as a women's condition but there are men outhere who suffor with it. I find it difficult to keep repeating myself when so called friends listen to you about your condition and how you suffor but I can see in thier face they dont even care. So I find it hard to sum up what to say to these guys. Also I have lost pretty much all my friends as I have been informed that some friends and even family have said that I want to be on the dole as they see it as free money. Honustly I have no idea what planet these people are from, income support isnt enough for you to live basically and I get infuriated at people who think I am faking. Why would I put my family through all this? It is unfair and ingnorant.

Has anyone else found that ex-friends or family have done tis to you?

Cheers sorry for ranting

My husband suffers with FMS so I know how hard it can be when you can't work and although it shouldn't, I think guilt can set in. These so called friends and family don't help either.

The main thing is that YOU know the truth so keep that in mind and try not to let them get you down. I know it is easy for me to say but if these people get you down with their cruel words then it will hinder your progress.

I also think, from our experience, that stress can play a large part in FMS so if you can try to get some of that out of your life it might help, again easy for me to say I know, it must be so hard when you can't do the things you want.

I'm a big believer in affirmations, little sayings to get you through the day, here are a few of my favourites by John Wooden:

* Don't measure yourself by what you have accomplished, but by what you should have accomplished with your ability.

* Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.

* Never let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.

Hope you don't mind me putting my two'pennorth in

[fibroman]

Hi Pollywolly

We certainly don't mind hearing your two'pennorth. It sounds like your husband is a lucky man with you at his side to support him, I love your affirmations I must remember those.

If hubby needs any extra support or someone to talk to who is suffering like him send him on here he will get a warm welcome.

[andypandy08a]

hi as already said put your bit in its nice to seem someone that is so supportive of his/her partner
love the sayings and how true they are

be nice to see your hubby on here

thanks Drew